It’s OK not to know everything.
Instead of rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic, we as leaders have to recognize that if we don’t ask for help, our ship will sink.
The key for us is to seek support from those who’ve accessed something we’d like to experience more of in our lives. In order to experience more joy and confidence, talk to, hang with and ask for help from someone who is exhibiting those attributes on a consistent basis.
If you’d like to make more money with your investments, ask someone who has demonstrated those skills consistently for support. You’ll be surprised at how many people will not only be willing to but will go the extra mile to help you.
We all have a tribe of people who would love to be a shoulder to cry on, provide a warm hug, or impart a little advice. All you have to do is ask.
Because we live in a world that rewards the do-it-yourself, self-sufficient mentality, the idea of asking for help can be challenging at the least. But turning up the volume on your life requires mastering the art of asking for help.
I used to view asking for help as a sign of weakness, but the truth was, I was really afraid of being rejected and looking bad. Meanwhile, life remained the same when I tried to do it all. Things were changing, but I wasn’t growing. It wasn’t until I pushed past my fears and began asking others for help that my life began to really take off.
I know now that it takes a massive amount of vulnerability to ask for help, and that no matter what you desire on the planet, it involves people. We can’t escape asking for support. And contrary to the bootstrapping do-it-yourself mentality begin propagated around the world, we never ever do anything without the help of others.
There are three things you can do before asking for help.
- Admit that you need help. This is big, because it often involves swallowing your pride and admitting that you aren’t super (wo) man after all. I have learned when leading others that often I can scrap by and get the job done, but if I involve others who know so much more than me, it becomes a reality I could not have imagined.
- Identify specifically what help you need. The more detailed and clear you are, the easier it will be to help you. If I can at least provide others the direction of what needs to be achieved, they will take it to new horizons.
- Identify who is skilled in that area. Make a list of people you know and those you’d like to know. For example, authors, bloggers, business owners, couples, etc. Make sure you don’t ask people who are not skilled in this area. For example, don’t ask someone who’s been single for years about how to create more passion in your relationship. Or don’t ask someone who has never done fundraising to put together a fundraising plan for your organization.
Ask and it is given!